Self Improvement Is The Way To Happiness
Self improvement is a way in which a person makes an effort in improving his performance in various activities. Self improvement helps the person in harnessing his powers positively to achieve results. By practicing self improvement a person is able to do his tasks on time and also do them successfully. No matter what challenges a person faces at different stages of life, a self improvement program plans to make the person meet the challenges with total confidence. A person is able to bring more control and benefits to his life in various ways.
A person should follow a self improvement program which consists of basic skills to improve one’s quality of life. A self improvement program makes a person understand himself and how life works. It also builds self esteem, self respect and overall mental discipline in a person. One can find more meaning and purpose to one’s life by following a self improvement program.
A self improvement program brings out the true powers of the individual and teaches him how to use his powers positively for his upbringing. A self improvement program helps the person in meeting newer and newer challenges everyday and helps him in grasping new opportunities. It helps him in fulfilling his duties towards himself and his society. It helps him to understand the purpose of his life as each person in the world has to fulfill a purpose in life.
A self improvement program provides inspiration to many through its lessons that should be read everyday. Thousands of people around the world are buying books and subscribing to newsletters for self improvement. The books are professionally written and divided into chapters to be read each and every day. Each chapter consists of a different way to achieve self improvement effectively. One can also get to understand the importance of self awareness by reading the books. Self awareness is fundamental to spiritual and personal growth. With the help of a self improvement program we are able to know what we want in life and how do we fulfill our desires.
Self improvement programs make us break through our limited powers of thinking. They help us see the bigger picture of life and also make us achieve prosperity in life by changing our behavior according to the situations that we face in life. Self improvement is not something that is to be read or practiced one time. It is indeed an ongoing process to be followed for life. Hence we conclude that following self improvement programs throughout our span of life prove to be beneficial in a variety of ways as mentioned above.
A person should follow a self improvement program which consists of basic skills to improve one’s quality of life. A self improvement program makes a person understand himself and how life works. It also builds self esteem, self respect and overall mental discipline in a person. One can find more meaning and purpose to one’s life by following a self improvement program.
A self improvement program brings out the true powers of the individual and teaches him how to use his powers positively for his upbringing. A self improvement program helps the person in meeting newer and newer challenges everyday and helps him in grasping new opportunities. It helps him in fulfilling his duties towards himself and his society. It helps him to understand the purpose of his life as each person in the world has to fulfill a purpose in life.
A self improvement program provides inspiration to many through its lessons that should be read everyday. Thousands of people around the world are buying books and subscribing to newsletters for self improvement. The books are professionally written and divided into chapters to be read each and every day. Each chapter consists of a different way to achieve self improvement effectively. One can also get to understand the importance of self awareness by reading the books. Self awareness is fundamental to spiritual and personal growth. With the help of a self improvement program we are able to know what we want in life and how do we fulfill our desires.
Self improvement programs make us break through our limited powers of thinking. They help us see the bigger picture of life and also make us achieve prosperity in life by changing our behavior according to the situations that we face in life. Self improvement is not something that is to be read or practiced one time. It is indeed an ongoing process to be followed for life. Hence we conclude that following self improvement programs throughout our span of life prove to be beneficial in a variety of ways as mentioned above.
Making Personal Development Personal
We’ve written before about Impact Factory’s brand of Professional Personal Development (Professional Personal Development What is it?), but we’re just going to take a little side step here to talk about the broader issue of Personal Development.
This is because there’s an awful lot of talk about personal development and for some people, they’re not quite sure how it relates to them. Often when we become adults, learn new skills, have a job, a relationship (or not), friends, colleagues, we’re pretty much set in who we are, how we think and behave and what the nature of our emotional selves is.
Personal Development can sometimes seem like a pretty daunting ‘task’ rather than something to be desired or pursued. Do I have to change everything about me? Won’t it be painful and emotionally wrenching? Do I have to change everything about me? I’ll lose my friends if I change too much.
Common myths. And myths they are if you look at the gentler, more humane way to approach personal development. It shouldn’t be wrenching; you don’t need to have an ‘epiphany’ and change your ways forever; it should be a natural evolution of who you already are, not a tearing apart and a putting back together again.
Although Impact Factory primarily works with people in the workplace, the issues surrounding personal development are the same in any area of your life.
And here are a few reasons why:
Reverting to type and dealing with the feelings
What is very clear to anyone that works with people is that under pressure, people will ‘revert to type’. In normal circumstances, when there’s no pressure, everyone knows how they would like to deal with things differently. However, when decisions need to be made quickly, when things aren’t working as you would wish, when others become more demanding, most people under stress will behave as they always have. They will not have the time, nor will they make the time to weigh and measure their options.
What they will do is react to the current situation and do what they’ve always done to get a speedy result. What they have always done may not - often is not - the most appropriate choice to make; but it seems to be the only one available to them at the time. It is in hindsight that other options become clear.
People cannot help reverting to type. It is how the species has survived: when a mastodon came into view, people didn’t take time to ponder their options; they acted immediately. That vital mechanism is within us all: under threat we will react without conscious thought in order to survive.
However, without well-developed people skills, pressurised communication in all areas of our lives can look like bullying or blaming where it’s easier to accuse or order someone around rather than encourage. It can mean that people will avoid conflict and back down from useful confrontation where differences could get resolved. People will make incorrect assumptions and then act on them. Reverting to type can also mean avoiding getting support from others because you feel you have to do everything yourself.
When people revert to type, they are usually driven by their feelings, and it will usually be feelings that get in the way of being able to change behaviour constructively. Most people know how they would like to behave, so teaching the ‘how to’ is not at issue here.
Feelings that can get in the way of effectiveness can be anything from nervousness about presenting, to fear of humiliation for saying something stupid, to being intimidated by a particular person who seems to wrong-foot you all the time. Feelings can make you shy away from handling tricky situations from saying no to Christmas dinner with the parents to asking for a raise or communicating more honestly with a colleague.
At Impact Factory we address the fact that at times (more often than not) uncomfortable feelings will make it difficult, if not impossible, to create the outcome you want. Otherwise, people are trying to cope with new information and new techniques without acknowledging that their emotions can, at times, stop them making any change whatsoever.
That’s not personal development, and trying to learn new things without that essential acknowledgement usually means the learning won’t stick.
Changing yourself to change others
We hear over and over again in people’s personal and work lives that things would be much better if only someone else would change the way they do things. “If my sister wasn’t so stubborn, we’d have a much easier relationship.” “I’d get on much better if only my line manager would give me more time to get things done.” “My job would be easier if only my secretary was more efficient.” “My parents are so frustrating; if only they would start treating me like an adult.”
In these and many other examples, the solution seems to rest with someone else. Therefore, the responsibility for moving things forward rests with others as well. There will always be situations where life would be far better if someone else would just shape up and do things the way we think they ought to be done! However, that attitude puts all the power and influence into someone else’s hands and leaves us feeling impotent and often inadequate. You can have a good moan, but nothing changes.
Changing what you do, changing the way you speak to others, changing your attitude towards recurring difficulties will change the normally predictable outcome.
When we talk about change, we are looking for simple changes; tweaks, adjustments, small alterations, rather than looking to change everything about a person. At Impact Factory we talk about the least amount of change for the greatest impact. Striving for small but effective changes rather than complete transformation.
That’s’ how true personal development needs to happen: not massive life-changing upheaval, but easily manageable, incremental changes that don’t require you to change everything about yourself (or expect everyone else to change as well).
When we work with people’s personal development on our workshops we make it easy and enjoyable and filled with variety, so that there is ‘something for everyone’. What works for one person, won’t necessarily work for others. We believe that the way forward is to find a few things that you know you’ll be able to do, to have fun doing them and to experience enough small wins as you practise them. These are the things you’ll be able to remember in the heat of a difficult situation. You will revert to a new type that feels familiar because it’s developed from who you already are, not about becoming someone you’ll never be!
Real life, not make believe
Here’s one way that we do that: we use real-life, everyday situations that people encounter on the job or in their personal lives, rather than giving people made up, textbook scenarios they then have to ‘act out’. Working with real issues helps people recognise and understand their feelings rather than ignoring them or wishing they would go away.
We know that if you spend time learning and developing new skills on a course there needs to be a realistic bridge between the workshop room and real life.
We always ask people to bring in their own experiences - a challenging presenting situation, a recurring difficult person or problem, an upcoming meeting, etc. Within those real-life scenarios, we use some of the tools and techniques that the individual has practised during the training and has already found works for them.
By letting people work on their specific issues and then incorporating their favourite techniques into the re-enactments, they get to choose what they feel able to do, rather than ones they ought to do.
And if we could sum up our entire philosophy in one word it would be: choice.
When people feel they have choice, they feel more confident and better able to deal with the ordinary and the extraordinary of work and personal life.
And that’s how we make personal development personal as well!
This is because there’s an awful lot of talk about personal development and for some people, they’re not quite sure how it relates to them. Often when we become adults, learn new skills, have a job, a relationship (or not), friends, colleagues, we’re pretty much set in who we are, how we think and behave and what the nature of our emotional selves is.
Personal Development can sometimes seem like a pretty daunting ‘task’ rather than something to be desired or pursued. Do I have to change everything about me? Won’t it be painful and emotionally wrenching? Do I have to change everything about me? I’ll lose my friends if I change too much.
Common myths. And myths they are if you look at the gentler, more humane way to approach personal development. It shouldn’t be wrenching; you don’t need to have an ‘epiphany’ and change your ways forever; it should be a natural evolution of who you already are, not a tearing apart and a putting back together again.
Although Impact Factory primarily works with people in the workplace, the issues surrounding personal development are the same in any area of your life.
And here are a few reasons why:
Reverting to type and dealing with the feelings
What is very clear to anyone that works with people is that under pressure, people will ‘revert to type’. In normal circumstances, when there’s no pressure, everyone knows how they would like to deal with things differently. However, when decisions need to be made quickly, when things aren’t working as you would wish, when others become more demanding, most people under stress will behave as they always have. They will not have the time, nor will they make the time to weigh and measure their options.
What they will do is react to the current situation and do what they’ve always done to get a speedy result. What they have always done may not - often is not - the most appropriate choice to make; but it seems to be the only one available to them at the time. It is in hindsight that other options become clear.
People cannot help reverting to type. It is how the species has survived: when a mastodon came into view, people didn’t take time to ponder their options; they acted immediately. That vital mechanism is within us all: under threat we will react without conscious thought in order to survive.
However, without well-developed people skills, pressurised communication in all areas of our lives can look like bullying or blaming where it’s easier to accuse or order someone around rather than encourage. It can mean that people will avoid conflict and back down from useful confrontation where differences could get resolved. People will make incorrect assumptions and then act on them. Reverting to type can also mean avoiding getting support from others because you feel you have to do everything yourself.
When people revert to type, they are usually driven by their feelings, and it will usually be feelings that get in the way of being able to change behaviour constructively. Most people know how they would like to behave, so teaching the ‘how to’ is not at issue here.
Feelings that can get in the way of effectiveness can be anything from nervousness about presenting, to fear of humiliation for saying something stupid, to being intimidated by a particular person who seems to wrong-foot you all the time. Feelings can make you shy away from handling tricky situations from saying no to Christmas dinner with the parents to asking for a raise or communicating more honestly with a colleague.
At Impact Factory we address the fact that at times (more often than not) uncomfortable feelings will make it difficult, if not impossible, to create the outcome you want. Otherwise, people are trying to cope with new information and new techniques without acknowledging that their emotions can, at times, stop them making any change whatsoever.
That’s not personal development, and trying to learn new things without that essential acknowledgement usually means the learning won’t stick.
Changing yourself to change others
We hear over and over again in people’s personal and work lives that things would be much better if only someone else would change the way they do things. “If my sister wasn’t so stubborn, we’d have a much easier relationship.” “I’d get on much better if only my line manager would give me more time to get things done.” “My job would be easier if only my secretary was more efficient.” “My parents are so frustrating; if only they would start treating me like an adult.”
In these and many other examples, the solution seems to rest with someone else. Therefore, the responsibility for moving things forward rests with others as well. There will always be situations where life would be far better if someone else would just shape up and do things the way we think they ought to be done! However, that attitude puts all the power and influence into someone else’s hands and leaves us feeling impotent and often inadequate. You can have a good moan, but nothing changes.
Changing what you do, changing the way you speak to others, changing your attitude towards recurring difficulties will change the normally predictable outcome.
When we talk about change, we are looking for simple changes; tweaks, adjustments, small alterations, rather than looking to change everything about a person. At Impact Factory we talk about the least amount of change for the greatest impact. Striving for small but effective changes rather than complete transformation.
That’s’ how true personal development needs to happen: not massive life-changing upheaval, but easily manageable, incremental changes that don’t require you to change everything about yourself (or expect everyone else to change as well).
When we work with people’s personal development on our workshops we make it easy and enjoyable and filled with variety, so that there is ‘something for everyone’. What works for one person, won’t necessarily work for others. We believe that the way forward is to find a few things that you know you’ll be able to do, to have fun doing them and to experience enough small wins as you practise them. These are the things you’ll be able to remember in the heat of a difficult situation. You will revert to a new type that feels familiar because it’s developed from who you already are, not about becoming someone you’ll never be!
Real life, not make believe
Here’s one way that we do that: we use real-life, everyday situations that people encounter on the job or in their personal lives, rather than giving people made up, textbook scenarios they then have to ‘act out’. Working with real issues helps people recognise and understand their feelings rather than ignoring them or wishing they would go away.
We know that if you spend time learning and developing new skills on a course there needs to be a realistic bridge between the workshop room and real life.
We always ask people to bring in their own experiences - a challenging presenting situation, a recurring difficult person or problem, an upcoming meeting, etc. Within those real-life scenarios, we use some of the tools and techniques that the individual has practised during the training and has already found works for them.
By letting people work on their specific issues and then incorporating their favourite techniques into the re-enactments, they get to choose what they feel able to do, rather than ones they ought to do.
And if we could sum up our entire philosophy in one word it would be: choice.
When people feel they have choice, they feel more confident and better able to deal with the ordinary and the extraordinary of work and personal life.
And that’s how we make personal development personal as well!
Personal Development - Add Juice To Your Life!
Life is growth, and we are not growing we are dying. If we think about this point, we can see how life can become monotonous, and mundane. When we explore we feel great, when we settle to routine, we lose sight of a vision.
What is the point of digging a hole in the ground, if all we are going to do is cover it up again? Sometimes life can seem pointless. Get up, go to work, work, come home, sleep, and rinse and repeat.
Daily routine can add its toll. But, it does not have to be that way. In fact I am sure you have had times in your life where things are going great. If you look back, it likely was a time when you were doing something new. You were exploring, and growing.
So life is growth. When we grow we feel great. When we try a new meal or go to a new destination, we learn something new. We learn we liked it or we didn’t, and even what it looked like. We have created a bigger map, and here is where personal development can add zest to your life.
What has Bill Gates, Obama, King Solomon and a beggar got in common? They all goal set! Goal setting is at the heart of personal development, and it is so, because goals are generally for things we have never achieved before.
So, what has personal development and goal setting got in common? You set a goal, and now, you have to develop to get that goal. This is so, because we can only have what we are ready for. A person earning $30k a year can’t earn $100k a year, until they grow.
Now, back to Bill Gates, Obama, King Solomon and the beggar. With goal setting, we all do it. Unfortunately the first 3 people set a productive goal, while the beggar did not. We may say the person on the street has no choice; they are stuck there because of circumstance.
If we hold such a view it says that we wholly believe in fate, and there is no room to achieve goals, which would be unfortunate, and does not give room for goal setting. The truth is that personal development and goal setting can take you from where you are to where you want to get to.
And here is where the fun begins. You set goals that are positive, for whatever you want. And you work to get them. They require personal development for learning, they need applying to transform learning into skills. And finally the confidence of achievement.
Goal setters live longer and they achieve more in one life time that many would not in several lifetimes. Personal development is a loose subject, which adds benefit to it also. It is like science, it can include chemistry, biology, astronomy and many more subjects.
Likewise personal development includes personal and professional, wealth, health, happiness and a number of other areas. Enjoy personal development, and grow to your full potential.
What is the point of digging a hole in the ground, if all we are going to do is cover it up again? Sometimes life can seem pointless. Get up, go to work, work, come home, sleep, and rinse and repeat.
Daily routine can add its toll. But, it does not have to be that way. In fact I am sure you have had times in your life where things are going great. If you look back, it likely was a time when you were doing something new. You were exploring, and growing.
So life is growth. When we grow we feel great. When we try a new meal or go to a new destination, we learn something new. We learn we liked it or we didn’t, and even what it looked like. We have created a bigger map, and here is where personal development can add zest to your life.
What has Bill Gates, Obama, King Solomon and a beggar got in common? They all goal set! Goal setting is at the heart of personal development, and it is so, because goals are generally for things we have never achieved before.
So, what has personal development and goal setting got in common? You set a goal, and now, you have to develop to get that goal. This is so, because we can only have what we are ready for. A person earning $30k a year can’t earn $100k a year, until they grow.
Now, back to Bill Gates, Obama, King Solomon and the beggar. With goal setting, we all do it. Unfortunately the first 3 people set a productive goal, while the beggar did not. We may say the person on the street has no choice; they are stuck there because of circumstance.
If we hold such a view it says that we wholly believe in fate, and there is no room to achieve goals, which would be unfortunate, and does not give room for goal setting. The truth is that personal development and goal setting can take you from where you are to where you want to get to.
And here is where the fun begins. You set goals that are positive, for whatever you want. And you work to get them. They require personal development for learning, they need applying to transform learning into skills. And finally the confidence of achievement.
Goal setters live longer and they achieve more in one life time that many would not in several lifetimes. Personal development is a loose subject, which adds benefit to it also. It is like science, it can include chemistry, biology, astronomy and many more subjects.
Likewise personal development includes personal and professional, wealth, health, happiness and a number of other areas. Enjoy personal development, and grow to your full potential.
6 Personal Development Steps to Success
his practical personal development guide to success for all those who have tried before yet failed. It doesn’t matter where you are now in your your own personal development or or where you wish to go. It matters very little how far reaching your personal development goal is or how hard it appears to be to attain. No matter what you want to achieve rest assured that some else has achieved something similar beginning somewhere close to where you are. If they did it so can you!
If you follow the 6 personal development steps set out before you, you will be achieving your personal development goals very soon.
Step 1.
The first personal development step is essential! You must be clear about what you want! When you begin to set personal development goals ensure you have a very definite arrival point. Some people when they want to better their lives look around for the path of least resistance. They have no real idea of what they want from life but just know they want to improve it. They therefore look at many different things and try many different personal development approaches without every really devoting themselves to one objective and never achieving success. There is no personal development!
If you live in New York and wish to visit San Diego you do not begin by looking at the most convenient and easiest route before you decide your destination! You just decide you want to go to San Diego!
It is the same with any personal development goal. No matter how hard or unreasonable your desire may seem you must always follow your heart! Have a clear definition of what success means to you. Set you personal development goal now by deciding exactly what it is you want from life!
Step 2.
Narrow the personal development goal down. Get specific. Deciding that you are going to visit San Diego is all well and good but the city is extremely large. Where in San Diego do you want to go? Be specific in your goals. For example, wanting to lose weight is a reasonable and achievable goal but it is too vague. Set a target for your weight loss. Do you want to lose 5 pounds, 10 or even 20 pounds? To achieve any kind of personal development you must be specific!
Step 3.
Write your personal development goal down. Make in concrete by putting it on paper. Place it somewhere where you can see it everyday. It makes the goal real and acts as a reminder of what you are working towards. This is why company’s have their mission statement in giant letters where every employee can see it! Create your mission statement and on it place your goal.
Step 4.
Create a personal development plan. Look for ways that will help you achieve this goal. How did others achieve similar results? Did they learn lessons from experience which you can also learn without having to experience the learning as they did? Use the personal development journeys of others. How did other people do it? Learn from their mistakes and use them for your own learning. Someone else may have failed hundreds of times in their personal development before they learned to do it right. You don’t have to be the same. Just follow the final plan they used to succeed!
Step 5.
Once you have a personal development plan break it down into smaller more easily achievable goals. Each day should not pass without you being a little closer to achieving your goal. No matter how the small the steps are just take them and ensure you are taking them in the right direction!
Step 6.
Create a mental picture of success. Picture yourself enjoying the personal development achievement of having already acquired your goal. Feel all the positive emotions that come with this success. Review this mental picture first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
Personal development step 6 is often overlooked yet it is one of the most important of the personal development steps. By visualizing your goal attainment you are programming your mind with the blueprint of success. This will keep you motivated in times of self-doubt or frustration.
Follow these 6 simple steps and personal development and success are guaranteed!
If you follow the 6 personal development steps set out before you, you will be achieving your personal development goals very soon.
Step 1.
The first personal development step is essential! You must be clear about what you want! When you begin to set personal development goals ensure you have a very definite arrival point. Some people when they want to better their lives look around for the path of least resistance. They have no real idea of what they want from life but just know they want to improve it. They therefore look at many different things and try many different personal development approaches without every really devoting themselves to one objective and never achieving success. There is no personal development!
If you live in New York and wish to visit San Diego you do not begin by looking at the most convenient and easiest route before you decide your destination! You just decide you want to go to San Diego!
It is the same with any personal development goal. No matter how hard or unreasonable your desire may seem you must always follow your heart! Have a clear definition of what success means to you. Set you personal development goal now by deciding exactly what it is you want from life!
Step 2.
Narrow the personal development goal down. Get specific. Deciding that you are going to visit San Diego is all well and good but the city is extremely large. Where in San Diego do you want to go? Be specific in your goals. For example, wanting to lose weight is a reasonable and achievable goal but it is too vague. Set a target for your weight loss. Do you want to lose 5 pounds, 10 or even 20 pounds? To achieve any kind of personal development you must be specific!
Step 3.
Write your personal development goal down. Make in concrete by putting it on paper. Place it somewhere where you can see it everyday. It makes the goal real and acts as a reminder of what you are working towards. This is why company’s have their mission statement in giant letters where every employee can see it! Create your mission statement and on it place your goal.
Step 4.
Create a personal development plan. Look for ways that will help you achieve this goal. How did others achieve similar results? Did they learn lessons from experience which you can also learn without having to experience the learning as they did? Use the personal development journeys of others. How did other people do it? Learn from their mistakes and use them for your own learning. Someone else may have failed hundreds of times in their personal development before they learned to do it right. You don’t have to be the same. Just follow the final plan they used to succeed!
Step 5.
Once you have a personal development plan break it down into smaller more easily achievable goals. Each day should not pass without you being a little closer to achieving your goal. No matter how the small the steps are just take them and ensure you are taking them in the right direction!
Step 6.
Create a mental picture of success. Picture yourself enjoying the personal development achievement of having already acquired your goal. Feel all the positive emotions that come with this success. Review this mental picture first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
Personal development step 6 is often overlooked yet it is one of the most important of the personal development steps. By visualizing your goal attainment you are programming your mind with the blueprint of success. This will keep you motivated in times of self-doubt or frustration.
Follow these 6 simple steps and personal development and success are guaranteed!
Celebrating Self-Improvement Month In Colleges
In line with a school’s continuous endeavor towards self-improvement, in every academic year, a particular month is generally designated as a self-improvement month. During this month, there are festivities as well as several events that further advance and motivate young persons to strive to become better individuals in life.
Making every effort towards the goal of self-improvement, does not by any possible means, challenge the exceptionality of an individual. Well, it is a known fact that every person comes with his own levels of competence. Nevertheless, you cannot put a ceiling on these personal strong points.
There is always room for improvement. In this way, an individual is able to preserve his existing capabilities and simultaneously augment them through self-improvement.
The self-improvement months conducted by several different schools are usually anticipated eagerly by the students. Now, this is due to the fact that theses activities, apart from being remarkably inspiring also give due importance to each and every student. There is neither a leader nor a follower. Everybody is assigned equal privilege.
Before the self-improvement month commences, the guidance counselor carries out student interviews. This is to evaluate further the students with regard to their self-improvement needs or requirements. Besides, students are also offered the chance to contribute their inputs pertaining to the kind of events to be organized in the month.
Once the guidance counselor finishes the discussion, the students are normally assigned a task to create something for an event, which will bring to the fore their creative abilities. They can compose songs, pen poems, paint for an exhibition, choreograph a stage performance, and several such others. They are given a free rein to organize the entire schedule of events.
In addition, even though a majority of schools observe this practice, in spite of it not being a self-improvement month, students are requested to keep a record and jot down personal areas they think need improvement in addition to what specific areas have already been accomplished by them.
For instance, a student can list developing his planning abilities. Later, he can note down, next to it, what the actual development was with regard to the same. For example, he can pen that he assisted his father in planning a formal business party. Even though it is just small thing, nevertheless it is quite a significant landmark regarding his objective of self-improvement. The recorded statements are often talked about with the class adviser or guidance counselor and suitable suggestions are made.
During self-improvement months, the school corridors are covered by an array of murals and collages. The teachers give themes concerned with self-improvement and the students form themselves into groups and make a collage based on the theme, which they afterwards will exhibit in the class. At times, competitions are also held to spice up the proceedings.
Contests are bound to take place since they spur the students on to reveal their true capabilities. Generally, contests are held in the spheres of singing, writing, painting, cooking, and so on. What is of the essence is that students are provided with a setting to exhibit their skills and are driven to sharpen them even more.
In the self-improvement month, there are countless activities, which can be organized. However, everyone should bear in mind that these events must underline the fact that each individual should hope to become a good human being and capitalize on all available prospects for self-improvement. Now, students are in the process of developing. Hence, it is crucial that they realize, as soon as possible, that an individual’s capabilities are never ending. There is, even now, so much that can be brought out and shared with others.
Making every effort towards the goal of self-improvement, does not by any possible means, challenge the exceptionality of an individual. Well, it is a known fact that every person comes with his own levels of competence. Nevertheless, you cannot put a ceiling on these personal strong points.
There is always room for improvement. In this way, an individual is able to preserve his existing capabilities and simultaneously augment them through self-improvement.
The self-improvement months conducted by several different schools are usually anticipated eagerly by the students. Now, this is due to the fact that theses activities, apart from being remarkably inspiring also give due importance to each and every student. There is neither a leader nor a follower. Everybody is assigned equal privilege.
Before the self-improvement month commences, the guidance counselor carries out student interviews. This is to evaluate further the students with regard to their self-improvement needs or requirements. Besides, students are also offered the chance to contribute their inputs pertaining to the kind of events to be organized in the month.
Once the guidance counselor finishes the discussion, the students are normally assigned a task to create something for an event, which will bring to the fore their creative abilities. They can compose songs, pen poems, paint for an exhibition, choreograph a stage performance, and several such others. They are given a free rein to organize the entire schedule of events.
In addition, even though a majority of schools observe this practice, in spite of it not being a self-improvement month, students are requested to keep a record and jot down personal areas they think need improvement in addition to what specific areas have already been accomplished by them.
For instance, a student can list developing his planning abilities. Later, he can note down, next to it, what the actual development was with regard to the same. For example, he can pen that he assisted his father in planning a formal business party. Even though it is just small thing, nevertheless it is quite a significant landmark regarding his objective of self-improvement. The recorded statements are often talked about with the class adviser or guidance counselor and suitable suggestions are made.
During self-improvement months, the school corridors are covered by an array of murals and collages. The teachers give themes concerned with self-improvement and the students form themselves into groups and make a collage based on the theme, which they afterwards will exhibit in the class. At times, competitions are also held to spice up the proceedings.
Contests are bound to take place since they spur the students on to reveal their true capabilities. Generally, contests are held in the spheres of singing, writing, painting, cooking, and so on. What is of the essence is that students are provided with a setting to exhibit their skills and are driven to sharpen them even more.
In the self-improvement month, there are countless activities, which can be organized. However, everyone should bear in mind that these events must underline the fact that each individual should hope to become a good human being and capitalize on all available prospects for self-improvement. Now, students are in the process of developing. Hence, it is crucial that they realize, as soon as possible, that an individual’s capabilities are never ending. There is, even now, so much that can be brought out and shared with others.
Your Personal Development and Liberty League
Don’t you think that it would be incredible to find an online career that could not only bring in the kind of money that we would all like to earn, but that would also give us the tools to become a better person as well? We will see what is possible with the online business opportunity offered by Liberty League in this review. This company offers two ways to grow with their business. Liberty League has a personal development program if that is of interest to you and they also offer a way to get into the Internet personal development industry as well.
Liberty League provides DVDs and workbooks that are geared toward assisting their customers in the pursuit of a better life. They claim to teach new ways that make people feel better about themselves and their discs and workbooks are there to show how to get this work done.
These are just a few of the many lessons that are included:
1. Seeing your day in a new way.
2. Lose weight if you want to.
3. Set goals and then achieve them.
4. Build self-confidence and a love for life.
There are several success stories that you can find in doing some research. The success stories from from other people might help you in your evaluation of the companies products and also to see if it is a good fit for you and your own personal development?
If you are just looking at this opportunity from a personal development perspective, then the products look very good.
The program seems easy to follow and is written well so that it is easy to understand as well. This might not come easy for some because every new undertaking comes with an learning curve, but rest assured that you are getting a program that is all nicely laid out for each new member.
If this seems like it is a good fit for you, then you have 2 options.
1. You have the option of purchasing the program for a membership fee of $1495 simply to better yourself with. With this option you can choose to not go into the business of selling the program and just keep it for your own purposes.
2. Or, if you desire to go into business for yourself, Liberty League offers a sales program and a comp plan for you to take a look at.
So, in a nut shell, investigate any online opportunity thoroughly, to find out what they are offering, to make sure that it is right for you.
I sincerely hope that you can take a look at this personal development program, research many others, and honestly find what you are looking for. Programs such as these can and do work if an individual is willing and able to commit their time and energy.
Liberty League provides DVDs and workbooks that are geared toward assisting their customers in the pursuit of a better life. They claim to teach new ways that make people feel better about themselves and their discs and workbooks are there to show how to get this work done.
These are just a few of the many lessons that are included:
1. Seeing your day in a new way.
2. Lose weight if you want to.
3. Set goals and then achieve them.
4. Build self-confidence and a love for life.
There are several success stories that you can find in doing some research. The success stories from from other people might help you in your evaluation of the companies products and also to see if it is a good fit for you and your own personal development?
If you are just looking at this opportunity from a personal development perspective, then the products look very good.
The program seems easy to follow and is written well so that it is easy to understand as well. This might not come easy for some because every new undertaking comes with an learning curve, but rest assured that you are getting a program that is all nicely laid out for each new member.
If this seems like it is a good fit for you, then you have 2 options.
1. You have the option of purchasing the program for a membership fee of $1495 simply to better yourself with. With this option you can choose to not go into the business of selling the program and just keep it for your own purposes.
2. Or, if you desire to go into business for yourself, Liberty League offers a sales program and a comp plan for you to take a look at.
So, in a nut shell, investigate any online opportunity thoroughly, to find out what they are offering, to make sure that it is right for you.
I sincerely hope that you can take a look at this personal development program, research many others, and honestly find what you are looking for. Programs such as these can and do work if an individual is willing and able to commit their time and energy.
When Life Hits Self Improvement On You
As adults, we reach a point in our lives when we open up to change. A whole new awareness allows us to accept information that will help us to unlock our self improvement power. Until that change occurs, something we need to improve our lives could be staring us in the face, however, we will not see it; even if it is right under our noses. Usually, the key factor that triggers the unlocking of our self improvement power, is when our lives have turned for the worst.
We tend to learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally open up and see the warning signs when things get rough for us. When is it that we realize we need to change our diet? Well, when none of the jeans and shirts we normally wear, fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates, and going to bed without brushing our teeth? Well, when our teeth start to decay. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? Unfortunately, it is usually when our lungs have become unhealthy. When do we pray and frantically ask for help? When we realize that we may be on our last breath on this earth.
For some reason, the key time most of us learn to unlock our self improvement power is when our world around us is crashing down and falling apart. We think and feel stress in this because it is not easy for us to change our habit-paths we have set for ourselves. However, change can become even more painful when we choose to ignore it.
Change happens, like it or not. At one point or another in our lives, we all experience turning points… and because of this, each one of us will eventually unlock our self improvement power. Not because the world tells us to. Not because our friends are nagging us to do it. Once set in our ways, we become so stubborn to change that permanent self changes don’t happen because we are reading books, or going to classes. Self improvement only happens when we have finally come to a fork in the road that has us realize that improving ourselves is really for our own good.
Happy people do not just accept change, they embrace it wholeheartedly. So do not allow yourself to feel tremendous stress when your life hits self improvement changes on you. Unlocking your power means you are unlocking yourself from the cage of thought your mind sets that says; its just the way I am, I can’t change that. Most people program their minds like computers to think that way. That cage of thought is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change.
Self improvement may not be your favorite topic, and you may think you do not need to do any adjusting in your life. But improving on yourself can really happen just by taking a look at your world; your environment from a little bit different a perspective at times. You may find you are enjoying the whole process of your life, instead of counting the days until you are fully improved.
Three sessions in a week at the gym would result in a healthier life. That certainly goes towards improving yourself. Taking in self improvement classes, reading enlightning books instead of reading mindless trash can also put you on track to more well-rounded feelings about yourself.
Even visiting with friends and peers can help you take a step back from work and unwind a bit from a negative mindset and feel better about yourself.
When you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you will realize that you are beginning to take things lighter, and you are becoming a happier person.
We tend to learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally open up and see the warning signs when things get rough for us. When is it that we realize we need to change our diet? Well, when none of the jeans and shirts we normally wear, fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates, and going to bed without brushing our teeth? Well, when our teeth start to decay. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? Unfortunately, it is usually when our lungs have become unhealthy. When do we pray and frantically ask for help? When we realize that we may be on our last breath on this earth.
For some reason, the key time most of us learn to unlock our self improvement power is when our world around us is crashing down and falling apart. We think and feel stress in this because it is not easy for us to change our habit-paths we have set for ourselves. However, change can become even more painful when we choose to ignore it.
Change happens, like it or not. At one point or another in our lives, we all experience turning points… and because of this, each one of us will eventually unlock our self improvement power. Not because the world tells us to. Not because our friends are nagging us to do it. Once set in our ways, we become so stubborn to change that permanent self changes don’t happen because we are reading books, or going to classes. Self improvement only happens when we have finally come to a fork in the road that has us realize that improving ourselves is really for our own good.
Happy people do not just accept change, they embrace it wholeheartedly. So do not allow yourself to feel tremendous stress when your life hits self improvement changes on you. Unlocking your power means you are unlocking yourself from the cage of thought your mind sets that says; its just the way I am, I can’t change that. Most people program their minds like computers to think that way. That cage of thought is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change.
Self improvement may not be your favorite topic, and you may think you do not need to do any adjusting in your life. But improving on yourself can really happen just by taking a look at your world; your environment from a little bit different a perspective at times. You may find you are enjoying the whole process of your life, instead of counting the days until you are fully improved.
Three sessions in a week at the gym would result in a healthier life. That certainly goes towards improving yourself. Taking in self improvement classes, reading enlightning books instead of reading mindless trash can also put you on track to more well-rounded feelings about yourself.
Even visiting with friends and peers can help you take a step back from work and unwind a bit from a negative mindset and feel better about yourself.
When you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self improvement power, you will realize that you are beginning to take things lighter, and you are becoming a happier person.
Personal Development Leads to Life Success
Can Personal Development really help? Can Self Improvement show you how to build a better life? How can being successful at your personal development goals lead to having more success in achieving my goals in life in areas such as career, relationships, health and finances? Well, a personal development goal and a life goal are really one and the same thing. The whole idea of personal development is to better yourself and your improve your own personal world. Therefore, setting and achieving personal development goals will ensure that you begin to lead a successful happy life.
You may not now know how to proceed. So what type of personal development goals should you set? How do you start to develop self improvement goals that will lead you to freedom, a deeper feeling of happiness, help you achieve a better lifestyle and ultimately create more success in your life? This question is not simple to answer because success means different things to different people. Therefore, if you want to become successful you must first have a clear understanding of what success means to you!
A fantastic way to get a clear on what success means for you is to ask yourself the question, “what would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?” Let your mind roam freely and immerse yourself in your inner vision. This vision will give you the clue that you need to unravel the mystery of success.
From the moment a person is born he/she has a natural ability to know what it is they want and a belief that they can have it. We develop dreams and ambitions at a very early age. However as we grow older we are conditioned to believe that these dreams are not possible or are mere fantasies of our imagination. You are directed to get a good education so that you can find a good job that will allow you to get a mortgage, get married, have kids and live a ‘normal’ life. By the time most people reach their mid twenties they have all but given up on their dreams or even forgotten what those dreams are. They have become conditioned into believing that they are incapable of achieving what they want in life. This fundamental belief forms the foundation of their self image and the rest of their mental attitudes are build upon it!
It is the role of personal development and self improvement to remove these conditioned mental attitudes from your inner mind and free you to pursue the life course that you chose for yourself. BY using self improvement methods and personal development tools it is possible to begin removing today the negative mental programming you recieved from well-meaning peers, family, friends and teachers. In addition you will also be directed to remove all those negative mental attitudes that have been given to you by not so well-meaning people and those you have developed yourself through negative life experiences. Although this is not always an easy or pleasurable journey to take the rewards that you will experience from taking it are immeasurable and make it truly worthwhile.
The freedom that you can experience from removing just one negative mental and negative emotional pattern is akin to the feeling of rest and tranquillity you feel after extreme physical exercise. Removing numerous negative mental attitudes and emotional stress from your mind and body is a feeling and experience that is truly hard to describe to someone who has never experienced it themselves.
Jesus Christ said, “seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”: Matthew 6:33. By removing the negative mental and emotional attitudes from your mind you free yourself to reach your goals. Let me explain.
Let us say you decide to set a goal to be financially free. There are thousands of different ways to achieve this goal. There are thousands of methods you could follow and plans you could set in motion that would bring you closer to this goal. Millions of people have gone from rags to riches. So, why does following a plan work for one person and the same plan will not work for another?
It is due entirely to the difference in attitude and mental conditioning!
There are at your disposal numerous personal development and self improvement methods that are designed to help you achieve this goal. Now these tools and methods are not designed to show you the way to become financially free but instead are designed to free you from your own inner resistance to being financially free. Many people think this is a waste of time and would prefer to be given step by step instructions to build financial wealth and I was once one of them. However, it didn’t matter how much effort I used or how many ‘guaranteed’ formulas I followed my financial situations did not improve and many times actually grew worse.
Why was this? Were the plans I was following just not good enough to create wealth? Were the people peddling these rags to riches methods merely conning me out of my money? Was gaining wealth just pure luck like winning the lottery?
The answer to all of the above questions is no!
The plans I followed had worked for thousands and made them rich! The people selling me the products and methods had all made their fortunes using the very same techniques they were trying to teach me! It was only after a great deal of hradship and many learning lessons that I discovered the truth - gaining wealth has nothing to do with being lucky!
It wasn’t that these things were not good enough to produce the wealth I craved it was that I THOUGHT I wasn’t good enough. When you hold a negative self image and have a negative view of yourself and your abilities it is very difficuly to achieve success no matter how much effort you put into it! This is why it is of paramount importance to first remove the negative conditioning that is holding you back in life.
Your attitude, which is only composed of thoughts and feelings, is responsible for your actions. Thought is the creator of action! Every action you perform, no matter how small or big, first begins in your mind as a thought. Each thought begins as a feeling. Think of when you met your last partner. You first felt the attraction. This developed into a thought or series of thoughts about meeting the person. Then you performed some action to make that happen. Think of the last time you went out socializing. You had the feeling that you would like to have some fun, or be with your friends, were feeling lonely etc. Then you had the thought. Then you performed the action.
If your actions are motivated by your thoughts and feelings and your attitude is composed of thoughts and feelings do you think you could succeed at a given task if you hold a negative mental attitude about it or your ability to succeed at it?
Once you embrace personal development and begin to use any of the myriad of self improvement tools to remove your negative mental attitudes you will naturally find yourself becoming more successful in life. You actions will be more positive and you will unconsciously perform the correct actions that will lead you to success. I am sure you can know see how important it is to set some personal development goals. Not only will you see improvement in your self, you will also see many symptoms of success added unto you!
You may not now know how to proceed. So what type of personal development goals should you set? How do you start to develop self improvement goals that will lead you to freedom, a deeper feeling of happiness, help you achieve a better lifestyle and ultimately create more success in your life? This question is not simple to answer because success means different things to different people. Therefore, if you want to become successful you must first have a clear understanding of what success means to you!
A fantastic way to get a clear on what success means for you is to ask yourself the question, “what would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?” Let your mind roam freely and immerse yourself in your inner vision. This vision will give you the clue that you need to unravel the mystery of success.
From the moment a person is born he/she has a natural ability to know what it is they want and a belief that they can have it. We develop dreams and ambitions at a very early age. However as we grow older we are conditioned to believe that these dreams are not possible or are mere fantasies of our imagination. You are directed to get a good education so that you can find a good job that will allow you to get a mortgage, get married, have kids and live a ‘normal’ life. By the time most people reach their mid twenties they have all but given up on their dreams or even forgotten what those dreams are. They have become conditioned into believing that they are incapable of achieving what they want in life. This fundamental belief forms the foundation of their self image and the rest of their mental attitudes are build upon it!
It is the role of personal development and self improvement to remove these conditioned mental attitudes from your inner mind and free you to pursue the life course that you chose for yourself. BY using self improvement methods and personal development tools it is possible to begin removing today the negative mental programming you recieved from well-meaning peers, family, friends and teachers. In addition you will also be directed to remove all those negative mental attitudes that have been given to you by not so well-meaning people and those you have developed yourself through negative life experiences. Although this is not always an easy or pleasurable journey to take the rewards that you will experience from taking it are immeasurable and make it truly worthwhile.
The freedom that you can experience from removing just one negative mental and negative emotional pattern is akin to the feeling of rest and tranquillity you feel after extreme physical exercise. Removing numerous negative mental attitudes and emotional stress from your mind and body is a feeling and experience that is truly hard to describe to someone who has never experienced it themselves.
Jesus Christ said, “seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”: Matthew 6:33. By removing the negative mental and emotional attitudes from your mind you free yourself to reach your goals. Let me explain.
Let us say you decide to set a goal to be financially free. There are thousands of different ways to achieve this goal. There are thousands of methods you could follow and plans you could set in motion that would bring you closer to this goal. Millions of people have gone from rags to riches. So, why does following a plan work for one person and the same plan will not work for another?
It is due entirely to the difference in attitude and mental conditioning!
There are at your disposal numerous personal development and self improvement methods that are designed to help you achieve this goal. Now these tools and methods are not designed to show you the way to become financially free but instead are designed to free you from your own inner resistance to being financially free. Many people think this is a waste of time and would prefer to be given step by step instructions to build financial wealth and I was once one of them. However, it didn’t matter how much effort I used or how many ‘guaranteed’ formulas I followed my financial situations did not improve and many times actually grew worse.
Why was this? Were the plans I was following just not good enough to create wealth? Were the people peddling these rags to riches methods merely conning me out of my money? Was gaining wealth just pure luck like winning the lottery?
The answer to all of the above questions is no!
The plans I followed had worked for thousands and made them rich! The people selling me the products and methods had all made their fortunes using the very same techniques they were trying to teach me! It was only after a great deal of hradship and many learning lessons that I discovered the truth - gaining wealth has nothing to do with being lucky!
It wasn’t that these things were not good enough to produce the wealth I craved it was that I THOUGHT I wasn’t good enough. When you hold a negative self image and have a negative view of yourself and your abilities it is very difficuly to achieve success no matter how much effort you put into it! This is why it is of paramount importance to first remove the negative conditioning that is holding you back in life.
Your attitude, which is only composed of thoughts and feelings, is responsible for your actions. Thought is the creator of action! Every action you perform, no matter how small or big, first begins in your mind as a thought. Each thought begins as a feeling. Think of when you met your last partner. You first felt the attraction. This developed into a thought or series of thoughts about meeting the person. Then you performed some action to make that happen. Think of the last time you went out socializing. You had the feeling that you would like to have some fun, or be with your friends, were feeling lonely etc. Then you had the thought. Then you performed the action.
If your actions are motivated by your thoughts and feelings and your attitude is composed of thoughts and feelings do you think you could succeed at a given task if you hold a negative mental attitude about it or your ability to succeed at it?
Once you embrace personal development and begin to use any of the myriad of self improvement tools to remove your negative mental attitudes you will naturally find yourself becoming more successful in life. You actions will be more positive and you will unconsciously perform the correct actions that will lead you to success. I am sure you can know see how important it is to set some personal development goals. Not only will you see improvement in your self, you will also see many symptoms of success added unto you!
Personal Development Books
Personal development books are the new rage these days. However, first a distinction must be made between personal development books and personality development books. The latter helps people improve one aspect of their life which is one’s outward appearance which is a combination of behavior and looks. Personal development is a more comprehensive and encompassing area of improvement. It includes personality development but also many other areas of improvement. It involves improving oneself from within in a spiritual, moral, physiological, emotional sense. It stresses on improvement in one’s thinking because that affects every aspect of one’s life. The effects of personal development manifest themselves in many ways especially through personality development.
An avalanche of books
There are many published on personal development in the market. They are written by authors who have varied backgrounds. Some authors specialize in writing these and have dedicated their whole life to them. They have made a career out of writing these kinds of book and are experts. These kinds of reading materials are rich in academic advice and tips because they draw from a rich pool of pre-existing books. These tend to be great religious and holy books, rich epics that have religious connotations or established books in the field of psychology, great literature and travel book. Since the source material is of such high quality these books tend to be very useful for the believers. Their biggest short coming is probably the author’s lack of real life experience. Some critics feel that they represent an ideal which is difficult to attain. Even some readers feel that these reading material are too idealistic.
The second major category of personal improvement book is the ones written by authors who are not full time writers at least to begin with. These authors are often people who specialized in some practical work and at a later stage decided to write personal improvement book. These reading material typically are a healthy mix of the idealistic but tempered with the wisdom of practical experience. They are also deeply colored by the personal experience of the author. There are mixed reactions to this genre. While some readers like the fact that the authors are more grounded in reality and this will percolate down to the book, some find them a curious hybrid that are too niche for everyone’s liking. The influence of the author’s personal experience is also a turn-off for some readers who want to read a book that is neutral in its perceptions.
A little caution is good
The category itself is huge. It is also a very fast growing segment in self help books. Worldwide the desire for self improvement is driving this market resulting in the growth in sales for these books. However readers must exercise caution when deciding which books to buy. Many of these materials are nothing better than scams with authors recycling previously written books. Some of these books are covertly political and that is also very dangerous. Since these can change the thinking of the person they are potentially very dangerous. A badly written book or even a well written personal development book has the innate capacity to ruin a healthy mind.
An avalanche of books
There are many published on personal development in the market. They are written by authors who have varied backgrounds. Some authors specialize in writing these and have dedicated their whole life to them. They have made a career out of writing these kinds of book and are experts. These kinds of reading materials are rich in academic advice and tips because they draw from a rich pool of pre-existing books. These tend to be great religious and holy books, rich epics that have religious connotations or established books in the field of psychology, great literature and travel book. Since the source material is of such high quality these books tend to be very useful for the believers. Their biggest short coming is probably the author’s lack of real life experience. Some critics feel that they represent an ideal which is difficult to attain. Even some readers feel that these reading material are too idealistic.
The second major category of personal improvement book is the ones written by authors who are not full time writers at least to begin with. These authors are often people who specialized in some practical work and at a later stage decided to write personal improvement book. These reading material typically are a healthy mix of the idealistic but tempered with the wisdom of practical experience. They are also deeply colored by the personal experience of the author. There are mixed reactions to this genre. While some readers like the fact that the authors are more grounded in reality and this will percolate down to the book, some find them a curious hybrid that are too niche for everyone’s liking. The influence of the author’s personal experience is also a turn-off for some readers who want to read a book that is neutral in its perceptions.
A little caution is good
The category itself is huge. It is also a very fast growing segment in self help books. Worldwide the desire for self improvement is driving this market resulting in the growth in sales for these books. However readers must exercise caution when deciding which books to buy. Many of these materials are nothing better than scams with authors recycling previously written books. Some of these books are covertly political and that is also very dangerous. Since these can change the thinking of the person they are potentially very dangerous. A badly written book or even a well written personal development book has the innate capacity to ruin a healthy mind.
Self Improvement Needs To Become A Priority
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny. I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooha! what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes. I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me. I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you, of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped, gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny. I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooha! what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes. I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me. I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you, of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped, gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.